Inspired by Charlotte Maya’s She Diaries Episode and her book Sushi Tuesdays.

After losing her husband, Charlotte Maya found herself surrounded by everyday heroes—friends who showed up in quiet, powerful ways. She calls them her “Janes.” Each Jane brought a different kind of gift, and every one of them made healing possible.

“Whatever your gift is, just bring it. It is so helpful when somebody shows up with their gift.” – Charlotte Maya

If you’re wondering how to help someone after a loss, here are 9 ways you can be a Jane:

1. Listening Jane

She doesn’t try to fix anything. She just makes space for you to say the hard stuff out loud—and listens without judgment.

2. Feeding Jane

She shows up with soup, snacks, or a meal kit. Sometimes love looks like a casserole at the door.

3. Logistics Jane

She handles what feels impossible: paying a bill, picking up the kids, canceling an appointment. The mental load is lighter with her around.

4. Walking Jane

She invites you to take a walk—no pressure, no agenda, just movement and presence.

5. Distraction Jane

She brings a funny movie, texts you memes, or gently helps you laugh when everything feels impossibly heavy.

6. Silent Jane

She doesn’t need to say anything at all. She sits with you. Stays close. Holds the quiet.

7. Money Jane

She covers the utility bill. Sends a Venmo. Drops off a grocery gift card. It’s not about the amount—it’s about the relief.

8. Creative Jane

She brings over craft supplies, helps you start a journal, or makes something meaningful to honor your person.

9. Engineer Jane

She makes a plan. Charlotte had one of these too—a friend who showed up with consistency, precision, and structure when everything felt chaotic.

The truth? You don’t have to be everything.
You just have to be something—the version of Jane that only you can be.